What is the difference between those that keep weight off and those that put it back on? The answer is that those that keep weight off worked out why they were eating in the first place. You can diet over and over but if you never look at your real reason for eating, it will never go away. And it will always be waiting for you when you finish the diet. If you are overweight, then food is giving you something other than calories. It becomes a place to go to, a haven, and it remains so through every diet, always there, waiting for when you need it again. Food gives pleasure when we have no other, it gives distraction from all thought, it provides punishment to a body we hate and it can fill that painful void within us. Using food to feel better is easy, but it will never last long enough.
Using food to feel better is something we learn, not something we are born doing. It can be learnt anytime, at any age and often has a life event or change in circumstances that starts it. Eating is survival against uncomfortable emotion. When we feel an emotion we want to get rid of, it is easy to reach for what we know will take away that pain. The pain goes away and we feel better, but we never fix the underlying cause. This could be because we don’t know how to, we can’t change the circumstances or we just feel powerless to do something different. The cycle of emotion, food and release begins. Without interrupting that cycle and looking at the real cause, it will continue.
It’s not all bad news. Once you know your reason, once you face it and decide that you want better for yourself, it can change how you eat overnight. Having awareness of how your emotions affect your actions can transform your life from one of reaction to one of deliberate change. Finding out your reasons can reclaim your life from dieting.
If you want to start discovering your reasons for eating, my book ‘Still Overweight?’ will guide you through the process and help you make instant change to your eating and relationship to food.